I welcome you all to this blog. I am new to blogging and thought that this would be an interesting experience to say the least. I love to write, however you will notice that I am not to perfectionistic when it comes to my writing as this is just much to painful a task for me.
Let's begin with some definitions:
Hedonism: "Hedonism is a school of ethics which argues that pleasure is the only intrinsic good.[1] This is often used as a justification for evaluating actions in terms of how much pleasure and how little pain (i.e. suffering) they produce. In very simple terms, a hedonist strives to maximize this net pleasure (pleasure minus pain)." WILKIPEDIA
Addiction: A physiological and psychological need for a substance or activity in order to maintain homeostases. A need for a substance or activity that produces a pleasure, high, or buzz but that ultimately creates disfunction, loss and poor health in ones life
Passion: A powerful emotion, such as love, joy, hatred, or anger
- Ardent love.
- Strong sexual desire; lust.
- The object of such love or desire.
- Boundless enthusiasm (Free Dictionary.com)
All of these words share similar characteristics. We use these words interchangeably at times to describe positive things and other times to describe negative things. Often it is because we are being silly, or we don't know the true meanings of them.
There is a Hedonic Model in Addiction that we use; I often use because I find it a good working plan for people to learn new ways of coping which minimize their pain and maximize their pleasure in healthy ways. Sometimes of course it is dependent on the person recognizing that life is full of both pleasure and pain. We all want less pain and more pleasure, however, on the way to a more pleasureful life or existence many of us will accept the short term pain for a belief that there is a longer term pleasure in the future... This concept often gets people thinking about whether or not it is all worth it. I intend to document my use of the Hedonic Model more in future blogs, but my goal now is to get people thinking....
1. What is your opinion of how Hedonism operates within your beliefs and your live? What are you teaching your children about pleasure and pain?
2. Do you have addictions? Do you ever refer to yourself as having an addiction? If so. what pain are you hiding from? Or Better yet Have you thought about whether or not this will bring you long term pain or long term pleasure
3. What are your passions in life? What are you willing to endure to keep the passion alive in your life?
Feel free to comment. I hope that people will take the time to think about these questions. I wonder what you think about the title of the blog? Did you think this was about me exposing my sex addiction... well sorry, you can ask my husband... you are very wrong...lol but if the thought brought you here... then I hope you stay... maybe someone else will expose something... more steamy than I will...
pretty good to me considering your new to blogging
ReplyDeleteSo what are your thoughts Jenn, any answers to the questions you are willing to share
ReplyDeleteI was intriqued because yes i thought... ohhhhhhhh tara... hmm.
ReplyDeletebut you know all you posted.. its all related!
I never blogged before and was always interested in trying.. I am interested to hear moretopics, comments and become a favorite blogger here
Jodi
This brought a smile to my face...bringing to mind the subject from a beloved high school history teacher who asked us "Is there such a thing as a selfless act?"
ReplyDeleteWould we help a blind person cross the road? and why? If you saw a child drowning the lake, would you jump in to save them? and why?
Answers varied, but were along the line of "I'd want help if I needed it." and "I couldn't live with myself if I didn't."
All of which, point to personal gain...so...no matter what we do, said the teacher, we get something out of it...
I've recalled that lecture often, and have now decided that we should be doing things for ourselves...In fact, it's likely true that most of us should be doing MORE for ourselves.
The surest way to help the most people (if you want to, of course) is to improve your own situation.
And as you love yourself, so it is that you can love others.
Who is to say with complete certainty what we're doing here, but for me, I think it comes down to this - to learn and to experience boundless joy.
Not at the expense of others, and that's what's great...we can be the happiest bee in the hive, and never sting a soul...there is more than enough honey for everyone.
Passions...well...I am passionate about getting others to become passionate about the things they want to have, do, be, etc.
There are too many who are settling for less than what they want, and I do believe we can have it all...
Life is meant to be abundant in all areas...
Money does not have to come at the expense of unhealthy relationships...
Spirituality does not have to come at the expense of poverty...
A loving partner doesn't have to come at putting yourself second.
I believe there is something wonderful about every person here, and we simply have to follow our bliss - whatever brings us pleasure, do it.
If you love to fish, then fish...if you love to dance, dance your ass off...if you love eating chicken wings, by all means, do that too. Fancy a scotch or a pint, go for it.
Just allow others to chase what they want too.
I certainly have addictions, and one I'll share is the need to spend time outside...yes...it's on the G rated side of addictions, but it's something that consumes me relentlessly...If I go without nature for too long, I am miserable, cranky, and tend to be less than friendly to those around me...it's a fix I can not live without...but I don't know why.
Great blog...keep it coming
Thank you Kent. It is true we are never truly selfless, although we would like to believe that we are. Most of us do not give ourselves the caring we need and Hedonic Model would likely argue that sometimes this is due to not knowing the kind of pleasure that more positive self caring activities could bring us and the pain involved in the fear of change. I would also say that many people are afraid or do not believe that they are worth the time and effort. This is part of the human condition that we must all try to work on.... instilling confidence and self worth in ourselves and in others.
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